unpro wrote:its just parents used to bitch smack the kids back to reality, now they dont.
Yep.
It's well researched and documented. Parents have built up and pampered their kids. They've become more like equals in the relationship or in some cases, friends. The parents will do anything to not ruin the relationship, including giving into their every whim--even if that means rewarding bad or manipulative behavior.
Kids are not taught to compete. They're told from birth that they're special. That they're the smartest little genius in the world. There isn't a student of the month, it's just a gold star for everyone. You can become anything you want, even and astronaut or the president!!! It's a big problem in modern workplaces where younger people come in and are unable to accept criticism.
An enormous part of becoming great at what you do, is being self aware enough to be able to look at your own flaws and make corrective action. However, little Johnny doesn't think there's anything wrong because he or she has been told forever that they can do no wrong.
They've basically been damaged for life, because they have no emotional intelligence.
If any of you are familiar with the show AE Intervention, one thing you'll notice is a lot of the young people on that show were always the "great" music person, or the "super" smart one, or what have you. Then they get in the real world and get slammed because a false ego had been built. No one cares about you and you have to compete, fiercely. Many times they fall apart and turn to drugs, and the parents are always right there enabling it.
I think tough love is very important. Sometimes someone has to be the bad guy to you, but it's because they know the way it really is. I had a life changing experience in this regard from a person who was very important to me. I absolutely hate the people who did it. Our relationship is done. Over. Yet, deep down as I matured and became able to analysis things more rationally, they were right, and I improved significantly from it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1tXhJniSEc
There will always be some shitty people in a generation. Just like there will always be good people.
But of course. The problem is when the amount shitty people in a generation is growing at a faster rate. The snow ball just keeps getting bigger and bigger as they pass on their piss poor ways.
Not a single one of those people posting like that in that thread will survive in the real world on there own without marked changes.
[quote="unpro"]its just parents used to bitch smack the kids back to reality, now they dont.[/quote]
Yep.
It's well researched and documented. Parents have built up and pampered their kids. They've become more like equals in the relationship or in some cases, friends. The parents will do anything to not ruin the relationship, including giving into their every whim--even if that means rewarding bad or manipulative behavior.
Kids are not taught to compete. They're told from birth that they're special. That they're the smartest little genius in the world. There isn't a student of the month, it's just a gold star for everyone. You can become anything you want, even and astronaut or the president!!! It's a big problem in modern workplaces where younger people come in and are unable to accept criticism.
An enormous part of becoming great at what you do, is being self aware enough to be able to look at your own flaws and make corrective action. However, little Johnny doesn't think there's anything wrong because he or she has been told forever that they can do no wrong.
They've basically been damaged for life, because they have no emotional intelligence.
If any of you are familiar with the show AE Intervention, one thing you'll notice is a lot of the young people on that show were always the "great" music person, or the "super" smart one, or what have you. Then they get in the real world and get slammed because a false ego had been built. No one cares about you and you have to compete, fiercely. Many times they fall apart and turn to drugs, and the parents are always right there enabling it.
I think tough love is very important. Sometimes someone has to be the bad guy to you, but it's because they know the way it really is. I had a life changing experience in this regard from a person who was very important to me. I absolutely hate the people who did it. Our relationship is done. Over. Yet, deep down as I matured and became able to analysis things more rationally, they were right, and I improved significantly from it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1tXhJniSEc
[quote]There will always be some shitty people in a generation. Just like there will always be good people.[/quote]
But of course. The problem is when the amount shitty people in a generation is growing at a faster rate. The snow ball just keeps getting bigger and bigger as they pass on their piss poor ways.
Not a single one of those people posting like that in that thread will survive in the real world on there own without marked changes.